I Cant Change the Past But I Can Change My Future

I was beaten often in childhood and adolescence. My mother showed me no emotion from 5 years on and kept me essentially caged till age 18. Father was absent. It's taken a long time to deal with that. I'm now strongly "anti-violence", and I've slowly learned to sense natural, deep emotions in myself. It's taken a long time. I've only recently learned that my mother and my grandfather both come from families where serious domestic violence was commonplace, to the point where they locked up my grandfather for awhile and our family had to take in grandmother for a couple of weeks on several occasions. We must learn to break these painful and vicious cycles of violence in the family by radically inscribing ourselves against all acts of violence. There are much more intelligent ways of dealing with obedience and differences of opinion.

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Boshie · 70-79, F

I am also sorry that you were mistreated, and had no freedom. At least you know how to prevent this from happening if you have children.
My father never spanked any of his 5 children, because he had been physically abused. My mother occasionally swatted us with a fly swatter. She had vericose veins, because her father had hit the back of her legs with a stove poker tool.
There is always a better way to discipline children. I am glad that you revealed your past, since it might help others.