My self esteem is way too low...

@candycane i second this.
I often think of getting on, but then the phone rings , or my toast pops or something else. And i can do this 10 times a day ,,and never post a single word....but it looks like im here, (as it takes a while for ones pfp to disappear from the feed.

@OogieBoogie im on less and less cause its dead but i do have a few that waits for me to come on lol

@candycane you social icon you 😂

@OogieBoogie im off to bed

@candycane Sweet dreams!

@LadyGrace i dont think she is degrading his feelings, just trying to offer perspective .

We each have our own perspective , and that totally normal .
But adding perspective can hell one understand the bigger picture .

I used to get offended when people left me hanging in a conversation , and i agree with you that its rude to up and leave without explanation .

Until, due to circumstances ....i did it too. I didnt mean to , but life can m
be unexprected.

And that's when i realised we don't know other peoples circumstances.
We don't know what stops them from replying .
They could be having a bad time as well....and we dont know .

The only reason we offer these other perspectives is to try and lighten the emotional burden of him blaming himself .
It doesn't take away the lonliness.
That is sad, and can be insufferably depressing .
But maybe it helps him see there are just so many innumeable reasons why people dont respond. We all have our own problems and priorities that sometimes being polite just doesn't factor high enough when it comes to personal issues.

Ive felt guilty myself for not responding or dropping off....but , life can be crap sometimes .🤷‍♀️

@OogieBoogie oh no no no, I didn't mean that at all. I was not addressing her as an offender and I hope it didn't come off that way. It was nothing personal against her. I understand where she's coming from, and others. I get it. I get the bigger picture, believe me. I'm empathetic to both sides of the coin.

@LadyGrace thank you for your support. I really appreciate this view and would agree with not confirming someone's feelings of being to blame.

In my opinion that didn't happen here though. She pointed out that I'm overestimating my role in people's choice to avoid social media for a day or two. There are many valid reasons to take a break and it's honestly even healthy to do so.

Thinking I drove them to become less active by assuming I upset them is therefore unreasonable and feeling guilty over something that probably has nothing to do with me is objectively my fault. That's not the same as being to blame though as humans can't control every thought or feeling.

I believe @candycane confirmed I'm at fault, but not that I'm to blame. That's a major difference.

@NerdyPotato

I totally agree with that but I was not trying to blame anybody. I think I should have just not said anything hahaha because people got the idea I was blaming them for something when I only wanted to point out that we're going to have feelings and it's okay but still, I should have just left it alone and I'm sorry I even answered. Haha I certainly wasn't blaming candy cane and I thought I had made that clear.

Candycane, I just want to point out that all of you were right. I obviously didn't word my post very well but I promise you I was not trying to attack you. Neither one of us know what he was actually thinking or feeling so my point was that we can't help what we feel at times. Or why. And sometimes things just get to us, and yes we may be overthinking or just depressed, was actually what I wanted to say, but boogered up really bad. 😂 So I apologize if I hurt your feelings. I certainly didn't mean to. I just didn't word my reply very well. Please accept my apologies.