I really dislike it

When men refuse to show any emotions except anger.

That isn't manly. That's repressive, self sabotaging and damages mental health.

Men need to quit hurting themselves by refusing to feel and acknowledge other emotions besides anger.

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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

Haha I found this so funny. It's something I've been saying for a long time. It's like there's no middle ground just 1 extreme to the other.

It's really tiring, frightening and consuming.

It's like dealing with a child really. Walking around on eggshells in the hope you don't trigger their rage.

It's ridiculous!

FreddieUK · 70-79, M

Some people, men and women, get very angry when they see what they call 'emotionalism' in front of them. They fail to realise that anger is an emotion and that they are being just as emotional as the people who perhaps cry, laugh a lot or are very kind in the way they talk.

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

@FreddieUK anger is an emotion, true. But men who stop and intentionally try to stop crying because they feel it makes them weak, or some other some such nonsense.

Men have been raised to only express anger or happiness and limit their other emotions, which is so unhealthy. We are supposed to feel and express all our emotions. Not suck them up into some weird pit inside us where they fester. Yet so many men do.

FreddieUK · 70-79, M

@FoxyQueen I hope things are changing. I don't know about the states, but here when I was teaching, we did encourage boys to express themselves emotionally and in the same way as we encouraged girls to do traditionally boys' sports we try to get boys to be interested in things which traditionally they had not been. Being involved in such things as drama and music forces you to think about the emotional side of yourself. In another professional role I had, I had to help men release themselves from the things that you talk about: the anger and resentment suppressed under what they thought was 'manliness.' it was wonderful to see the release that they found when tears flowed and empathy discovered.

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