Question about attempted slander + backstab situation
I attended an event and was avoiding a "friend" "Jim" to see if he would find a way to apologize after I showed up to their suggested event just for them to not spend any time with me. I felt very hurt because went out of my way to adjust a lighter school load, funds and to coordinate a potential photoshoot together or whatever shenanigans. For them to completely get "lost in the moment" / overwhlem by the event to not do much with me. It made me felt left behind because people were going up to them for photos a lot.
9 months later, at this new event, one of my newly made friends befriended off the event's group. Recently, I just saved her from a situation and she came back from a date with that other guy "Jim." She told me when him and her were walking by and i was in my charizard cosplay. He immediately told her "you see her? Do not talk to her she is weird and she hates me and stuff." She immediately spoke up for me and snapped back at him, "you do not get to tell me who to hang out with or talk to!" Assuming that was probably the response he wasn't expecting because he probably had expeirence doing that shit with others, hence he did it to me, now that I went back to speaking with certain people. I found out why... he had a history of grooming minor allegations and been trying to avoid East Coast. Telling people to avoid certain people. He justistified blocking me. After my gal friend told me what he told her, at a mac and cheese restaurant, immediately knew what to do. I confronted him in person.
Later during the event, i saw him walking away from lobby area. Tapped him on the shoulder, had a guyfriend with me to witness this, he was walking to the direction towards one of the hallways. I told him "we need to talk." "Him" yes we do, and he starts pacing/walking away fast. Me: you blocked me. Him: for several reasons as he claimed. Me: for? Him: for giving me the silent treatment. Me: so you are telling people to stay away from me because im weird and i hate you? Him: yeah you deserve it! Me: that makes no sense, and you have no right to tell people to avoid me. Go fuck yourself! Him: stop STALKING ME.
I levelled up to him and made sure to yell at the top of my lungs for the whole lobby to hear.
"STOP. SLANDERING. ME!" And i could feel the anger puff out of my chest because of him being so unbelievably selfish and to control a narrative to have people not engage with me during my first event.
I want to share this, if i should share this online post to others of his attempt to hold ppl back from engaging with me. It's been weighjng on my mind from.the backstabbing and he has been diagnosed with BPD, but wow. I just know the guy is charimastic to convince ppl in his attempts, espeicially if they don't know me well enough on a personal level. I feel sick knowing he is out there spewing shit, after being present for him during a previous event, helping him and not having any time to "hangout."
9 months later, at this new event, one of my newly made friends befriended off the event's group. Recently, I just saved her from a situation and she came back from a date with that other guy "Jim." She told me when him and her were walking by and i was in my charizard cosplay. He immediately told her "you see her? Do not talk to her she is weird and she hates me and stuff." She immediately spoke up for me and snapped back at him, "you do not get to tell me who to hang out with or talk to!" Assuming that was probably the response he wasn't expecting because he probably had expeirence doing that shit with others, hence he did it to me, now that I went back to speaking with certain people. I found out why... he had a history of grooming minor allegations and been trying to avoid East Coast. Telling people to avoid certain people. He justistified blocking me. After my gal friend told me what he told her, at a mac and cheese restaurant, immediately knew what to do. I confronted him in person.
Later during the event, i saw him walking away from lobby area. Tapped him on the shoulder, had a guyfriend with me to witness this, he was walking to the direction towards one of the hallways. I told him "we need to talk." "Him" yes we do, and he starts pacing/walking away fast. Me: you blocked me. Him: for several reasons as he claimed. Me: for? Him: for giving me the silent treatment. Me: so you are telling people to stay away from me because im weird and i hate you? Him: yeah you deserve it! Me: that makes no sense, and you have no right to tell people to avoid me. Go fuck yourself! Him: stop STALKING ME.
I levelled up to him and made sure to yell at the top of my lungs for the whole lobby to hear.
"STOP. SLANDERING. ME!" And i could feel the anger puff out of my chest because of him being so unbelievably selfish and to control a narrative to have people not engage with me during my first event.
I want to share this, if i should share this online post to others of his attempt to hold ppl back from engaging with me. It's been weighjng on my mind from.the backstabbing and he has been diagnosed with BPD, but wow. I just know the guy is charimastic to convince ppl in his attempts, espeicially if they don't know me well enough on a personal level. I feel sick knowing he is out there spewing shit, after being present for him during a previous event, helping him and not having any time to "hangout."
