How do I get bf to help out with chores? [I Need Advice]

My boyfriend and I moved into our new apartment about 2 months ago. Things are mostly fine except I tend to do most of the chores. Now when I ask him to do a chore he'll do it without complaint but he never just gets up and does anything on his own. I'm the one who keeps the house mostly clean. I think part of the problem was his mother is very sweet but she was very relaxed and laid back in raising him and he was not made to do many things around the house. Any advice?

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Sunflower2021 · 31-35, F

If someone was never forced to clean even as a chore it's hard to get them to do it on their own when they're accustom to others doing it for them. When I was growing up my mom NEVER gave us chores. My younger brother and I usually would clean without being told to. One of my older brothers got his own place with his gf and they were both filthy. At first he would help clean but after a while you couldn't even walk in their place without stepping on something. You can try to start small like on Mondays and Wednesdays it will be your turn to clean the kitchen. I wouldn't really expect that to work but you can try. My partner will clean usually without me asking but I really don't expect him to because he has a physically demanding job. Or you can buy disposable dishes and give it to him to use since he don't want to clean. Try not cleaning for a week, I know it will be hard, and see if he just cleans it.