How do I get bf to help out with chores? [I Need Advice]

My boyfriend and I moved into our new apartment about 2 months ago. Things are mostly fine except I tend to do most of the chores. Now when I ask him to do a chore he'll do it without complaint but he never just gets up and does anything on his own. I'm the one who keeps the house mostly clean. I think part of the problem was his mother is very sweet but she was very relaxed and laid back in raising him and he was not made to do many things around the house. Any advice?

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Stark

Have you spoken to him about it instead of just telling him to do it ? 😐

You can’t force people to change and make efforts in things they don’t want to. Even things as small as something like chores. So, if he doesn’t see a problem with you doing all the chores, and you’ve already expressed to him that you would like more help with chores, and he’s made no efforts to change then there’s just going to be a consistent cycle of you telling him to help with the chores, or you doing the chores on your own. All we can do is express how we feel, and that person can either make the efforts to fix it or ignore it. So, if he doesn’t care enough to make the efforts to help out after you’ve already expressed wanting help, then that’s just who he is. And it’s just one of those qualities you can either accept in him or move on.