How do I get bf to help out with chores? [I Need Advice]

My boyfriend and I moved into our new apartment about 2 months ago. Things are mostly fine except I tend to do most of the chores. Now when I ask him to do a chore he'll do it without complaint but he never just gets up and does anything on his own. I'm the one who keeps the house mostly clean. I think part of the problem was his mother is very sweet but she was very relaxed and laid back in raising him and he was not made to do many things around the house. Any advice?

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BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

I wish I knew how to help in situations like this but honestly I just watched helplessly every time dad didn't want to do something and me and mom were always frustrated at how he knew all he had to do was be like give me awhile and it'll get done and then she'd forget and he'd never get around to it, and now he's gone and i'm stuck for instance figuring out how he set up his twenty thousand devices and being the reverse engineer who has to figure out how to solve any number of tech oriented problems he set up and never took care of. when men don't want to do something really the only way to motivate us is incentives... i've seen my fair share of people trying to doll out punishments to compel me not to do something or to do it and it just never works. also those incentives have to be personally relevant.... fortunately figured out how to get into his cloud accounts and emails.