Am I wrong? [I Need Advice]

I’ve been in a relationship about 5-6 years now. This man has 6 adult children. Never have I gotten a card or gift on any occasion or even a text. My birthday came and went again nothing. But every family function I have attended for him. I even hosted the Mother’s Day party at the house for about 30 people I did everything while he got drunk did nothing. I did it because he’s a widow and the kids miss their mother still after 8 years. Recently I decided to stop doing family functions with him because they just ecnor me anyway and it’s no fun. Being that we’re not engaged and never will be I decided I enjoy not being around them even though when I see them I’m very nice. Well, next week he’s throwing another party for the eldest step daughter she’s 45! I told him I won’t be home and gently explained why. He blew up and said I should be there for him? He blew up with rage and said than he’s done with me? I don’t see how it’s fair? I explained in 6 years nothing is ever done for me not even a text happy bday but I always help him with their bdays and party’s at the house and he agreed but still thinks I’m wrong? He never throws me a party and invited them. There’s a party or function almost every month! Is it wrong fir me not to be here or want to be here?

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Carazaa · F

So sorry that he's a jerk. That's great that you have shared how you feel. It's a good thing that he said he is done with you so now you can leave with good conscience. So he doesn't love you, or he doesn't realize what a jerk he is so have a safe plan to leave. And if he changes his mind then you can ask him for non negotiable contract for changes, and give him another chance.

God has a better plan for your life than being with him probably, trust in that!

I will pray for you!

SazyGirl · 56-60, F

@Carazaa if I had a way out I would leave he was my best friend but that’s just not there anymore

Carazaa · F

@SazyGirl "If" you can leave? Why can't you.

SazyGirl · 56-60, F

@Carazaa finances. He took ill and can no longer drive and has a lot of drs appts. His kids don’t help him at all so I accepted his offer to move in and help. I left another state to be here and left my job behind. So now I have a job that pays half what I made. I can take my old job back and move again or start over somewhere else it’s just not financially do able yet.

Carazaa · F

@SazyGirl So here is some advice for the future live and learn.
1. Never move to a mans town and move into his house unless he's your husband first.
2. You are paying for his illness and helping him raise his kids? That's great, God Bless you, but realize that he has to earn this, what has he done to earn your love?
3. Its Ok for you to have high standards, because you deserve to be treated good. If your standards aren't met move out!