Should I stay or should I go? [I Need Advice]

I’m 22, and I’m in college. My parents are pretty overprotective. This summer, a friend from another state came to visit, and we had a great time. I have since made plans to visit her in a few weeks (I’d be flying out of state, and my parents have no idea.) I paid for the flight myself, and I’d be staying with my friend and her parents for a few days. My friend also said she will pick me up from the airport, and she has already taken off work. I feel guilty for not telling my parents, but I feel that I should be able to have independence and be able to travel alone. (I’ve flown MANY times before, just never by myself.) Should I go?

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Mamapolo2016 · F

There are at least two issues here.

First, at 22, while it's important to get along with your folks, you should be able to go on a vacation and not require permission. The way to get treated as a grownup is to act like one. "I'm flying to spend a few days with Sarah. We're planning to be very careful about the virus and everything else."

Second, covid-19. I have no idea how you plan to quarantine in a dorm. Close quarters means big trouble if someone is infected. Unless you have a private room with bath and kitchen, it would be nearly impossible.

At 22, you have the right to make your own decisions and take your own risks, but you don't have the right to make decisions and take risks for all the residents in your dorm.

sabrinarose · 26-30, F

@Mamapolo2016 I understand! I do have a private kitchen and bathroom!