I Need Advice

@Texaspumper I'm thinking about visiting my mom before my senior year starts which is in two weeks. My mom said goodbye to us and left letters for us to have her own life. No she didn't abandon us. Anyways so my mom is......well busy. I've been waiting for a phone call all day today and she never called. I called her twice but she never picked up. She told me she was going to arrive at my 13th birthday. I've waited for 9 hours. My dad distracted me by games, dancing and wanted me to have fun which I did. My dad kept telling me to not get my hopes up. My mom never showed up. I called and asked what happened. She never called back. Then two months later she said she forgot and didn't feel sorry for it. I'm thinking about living with her but my dad doesn't know about it. My best girl plans said it's a crazy idea and I'll end up hurt again as usual. This time I'm sure my mom will appricate it.

I just need my mother and my dad said seeing her isn't worth it and she is just going to hurt me again.

Unfortunately it seems like what you want and need isn’t what she wants at all.

@Texaspumper What do you mean?

@UnlovedDaughter01 In my opinion - whatever that's worth to you - you will be happy (and healthier, physically and mentally) staying with your Dad for your senior year. It sounds as though your mother has serious issues, other priorities in her life, or both.

@UnlovedDaughter01 It doesn’t seem like you’re a priority to her. Trust me when I say parents don’t “forget” their kids birthday.

@Texaspumper I had my hopes up and I ended up disappointed

I’m very sorry that happened to you. I can’t imagine doing my daughter that way.

@UnlovedDaughter01 😪 Please don’t set yourself up for more heartbreak...

@LookingForIt987 Everyone has been telling me that and been keeping me away from my mom. I hate mothers day because my mom is never around. I despise mother's day.

@UnlovedDaughter01 For what it’s worth, you’re not an unloved daughter. Your dad seems to love you very much.

@Texaspumper I love my daddy too. I'm afraid to lose him one day. I'm lucky to have my dad. He's basically dad AND mom

@UnlovedDaughter01 I think anybody who is actively keeping you away truly has your best interests in mind, even if that’s difficult to see right now.

As I said above, what seems like your best interests, in my opinion, would be to stay with your Dad for your senior year. You and he have a routine and a rhythm by now, and that’ll help a lot as you wrap up this chapter in your life. That doesn’t mean that you can’t keep reaching out to your mother. But, until she clearly shows you that you’re actually a priority in her life, I’m afraid she’s just going to keep setting you up for more heartbreak. 😪