I Need Advice

I need advice. What i want to talk about is sexually inclined and this is something i need your advice on. First of all, i want to admit to myself that i am bot perfect. I am not all good in totality of my personality. I am trying to be as normal as i can, but, there are somethings that disturb me. And i want my these wrong thoughts to just go. I honestly don't know why i'm still alive. My problem is, i have never had any form of intimacy with a girl for a long time. I've never been in a relationship. And it kind of just bothers me in a strange way. I know that i might not even need a relationship now, but, there are moments in my life that, put me in a state or mood, were i feel so bad. I don't know how to balance my ability to be happy. I don't have people i can easily want to call, because, if i was to call someone, it would have to be a girl. And the girls i like, don't see me that way. So, i really, really don't know what to do, to just live normally, without having any need to worry about a girl. I'm the type of person that likes doing things, or i usually am busy doing something, or thinking about something. But i'm not able to always keep myself busy at every point in time. The most annoying part is when i get tired after a day of doing things, i come back and feel the need to be with a girl or communicate with a girl. I actually long to know what it feels like to be kissed by a girl or to be with a girl, and it is annoying because, it makes me feel bad. I don't chase girls, because, i don't think i can even have the time to do that. I can't even thin k of such a thing. So, how can someone like me survive in this situation? I need something that can help me. I really don't know what to do. How can i stay happy and balanced, since i don't have girls i can communicate with daily, i don't call any,because i don't have a steady on' phone.

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Flenflyys · 31-35, F

It sounds like you really want and need female companionship. Yet you say you don't want to pursue a relationship. You need to make that a priority and start going on dates. In a perfect world your match will cross your path and you'll live happily ever after. But most of the time you have to go get what you want. Start meeting girls on dating sites and take them out. Date as much as you can.

RoyX54 · 36-40, M

@Flenflyys Thank you for taking time to reply my post :) I appreciate. The thing is, maybe really i haven't thought of having a girl in my life as a priority. But it doesn't seem like i actually want a girlfriend. For instance, my day, during the day goes on just fine, until i'm tired and come back to the house. Then, that feeling of loneliness just kicks in, and i feel bad. Sometimes it's like, subconsciously, i want a girlfriend, but physically, i don't necessarily behave like i want a girlfriend. I know i might not make a lot of sense, but, i'm speaking based on the way i feel. One thing that might or may have caused this want for a girlfriend is, my been abused when i was younger by a boy a little older than me. I may be traumatized, i don't know. I do know, it affected me badly then. I wish i could date. But, i'm a kind of busy person. I once liked a girl, but, she has a boyfriend. I can only hope, that somehow, something good changes me for good or i just hope things get better. Thank you again for your advice :)

Flenflyys · 31-35, F

I'm sorry to hear about the abuse, I understand that can cause a lot of conflicting feelings. But I still think you should at least try it to see if you'd like it. If you don't then just go back to what you're doing. Don't let that creep ruin your life.