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I Need Advice

My head is spinning like insanely. So my boyfriend or not boyfriend has had his feelings for his ex resurface. So he doesn't want me to go away or leave because he doesnt want to lose me but he cant be with me whilst his head is split. And im praying its just him properly moving on and him being scared too so everthing is rehashing... And ive mentioned that i should take a step back but everytime i suggest like going away he freaks out and states that he doesnt want that. But what if these feelings dont go away or worse he decides to act upon them... He says he wont but ya know.. guys right? no offence but uh yall are confusing like. What am i supposed to do or how am i supposed to help him get past this because i love him dearly and i know he loves me... i can just see it. Everyone can. Even his best friend is annoyed hes doing this to me. And my best friend just says considering how he looks at me hes not gonna just let me go. He wants to give it a bit to see if these feelings go away... should i give him this time? i understand this is tearing him apart but doing this is tearing me apart... so do we both just be teared apart until it goes away or do i just let go? i know i dont want too but... if it makes it easier for him then shouldnt i?
TexChik · F
If you aren’t good enough nowto be his “ one and only “. Will you ever be?

Sounds like you are the contingency plan in case it doesn’t work out with the other girl. Don’t put up with that . Take the heart break now... if he were in love with you , this wouldn’t be happening .
xxMisfitxx · 22-25
@TexChik I have talked to him about this and said im not gonna be your back up but he says he doesnt wanna try and get her ... i trust him but my head is telling me to leave and my heart is saying to stay
TexChik · F
@xxMisfitxx the heart can never be trusted in this type of thing . Trust your head ...
BehindHerTears · 31-35, F
Just give him some time to adjust his real feelings. If his feelings for his ex is stronger than what he feels for you, then you should know the answer already too. I hope it works out for you two, good luck.
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
Give him time. Sounds like your best friend is right.
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
@xxMisfitxx Then you should feel confident.
xxMisfitxx · 22-25
@Mugin16 I dont know why i dont,its just sometimes i feel like its not gonna get better you know. HE said he tried to sort it out for like a week before he told me... and he doesnt think itll go away. What if hes just saying all this to make me happy?
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
@xxMisfitxx It doesn't go away? Hmmm..

Well he should be honest with you.
randomgirl42 · 26-30, F
I say to move on and find a good boyfriend who will put you first, not second. If he's not over his ex then he's not ready for his next.
SpaceCreature · 26-30, F
Leave him, cause right now youre an option.
xxMisfitxx · 22-25
@SpaceCreature I have explained my worries about this and he assures me he isnt trying to choose. he just cant give me all of him if he has these feelings.. he wants then to go away he just doesnt know how too. and i understand where hes coming from in that perspective. he cant pretend it isnt happening and hes hurting too with this... i can see it... i know that every tear isnt fake and i believe him when he says he loves me... but this does still go through my head.
Pdxman · 70-79, M
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xxMisfitxx · 22-25
@lancashirelady50 I know...thats why im unsure if i should leave, if im not there then his head cant be in two places at once...
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xxMisfitxx · 22-25
@lancashirelady50 God no if i just got up and left... he'd be hurt and want me to stay but all in all he'd let me go if i forced it upon him. If i asked for space he'd let me have it. but i dont want space... which is my issue i probably need it but i just cant bring myself to do it

 
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