I Need Advice
Has anyone else had their female best friend tell you she loves you and you feel the same way about her but you are both married?
46-50, M
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JennyGa · 41-45, F
Are you sure she didn't just say I love you as a friend?
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JennyGa · 41-45, F
@BruceKentAllen Yes it is. You both have feelings for each other and have expressed it to each other. You should end the friendship immediately or something will eventually happen.
BruceKentAllen · 46-50, M
@JennyGa You would give up your best friend that easily? Its not that easy for me
JennyGa · 41-45, F
@BruceKentAllen what's more important? Your "friend" or your family
Thats so annoying & immature to tell a married man you love him. Feelings fluctuate, especially when youre close friends with the other sex. Tell her to focus on her relationship.
SW-User
That's a tough situation. Are you both happily married?
BruceKentAllen · 46-50, M
@SW-User yep...pretty much. I'm happy but she's not real happy. But she loves him too much to leave him and I won't leave my wife either.
SW-User
@BruceKentAllen Can you both agree to maintain a friendship only, in spite of your feelings for each other? Otherwise, it's likely that you'll have to go separate ways. My best friend and I remained just friends in spite of deeper feelings (years ago).
BruceKentAllen · 46-50, M
@SW-User thats the question I was hoping someone here had been through before and could tell their story
BruceKentAllen · 46-50, M
Just didn't know if anyone had been in the same situation and if they were able to remain friends
samanthabelle · 22-25, F
not since 13
BruceKentAllen · 46-50, M
@samanthabelle I know...its ridiculous to have this happen as an adult...but it happened. It just kinda sucks. We have both agreed to not act on these feelings.