A question about Fifty Shades of Grey
Did not see the movie. Tried to read and only got to page seven -- it was that bad. So all my knowledge of the movie is second hand. See my actual question in my comment below.
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Lickitysplit · 70-79, M
So from what I am reading and hearing. Christian Grey is an unpleasant, narcissistic, self-centered @sshole who is a sadist in the true sense of the word, not in the fantasy and play sense of BDSM or Dominance and Submission.
My understanding of D/s is that the submissive holds the real power in the the D/s relationship. It is the submissive who sets the objectives of the relationship and defines the rules and the boundaries of what is acceptable and what is not. The role of the Dominant is to push the submissive up to the defined boundaries, without crossing or exceeding them, and by doing so, to empower the submissive to experience that which he or she is unable to otherwise achieve as a result of emotional constraints created by morality, education, parental expectations, and so forth.
The relationship in Fifty Shades seems to violate every aspect of this D/s paradigm. Thus, what is it that so many women have found to be so exciting or enticing in this movie and this story? In my mind, it really does seem to violate most of what I know about D/s and BDSM fantasy.
My understanding of D/s is that the submissive holds the real power in the the D/s relationship. It is the submissive who sets the objectives of the relationship and defines the rules and the boundaries of what is acceptable and what is not. The role of the Dominant is to push the submissive up to the defined boundaries, without crossing or exceeding them, and by doing so, to empower the submissive to experience that which he or she is unable to otherwise achieve as a result of emotional constraints created by morality, education, parental expectations, and so forth.
The relationship in Fifty Shades seems to violate every aspect of this D/s paradigm. Thus, what is it that so many women have found to be so exciting or enticing in this movie and this story? In my mind, it really does seem to violate most of what I know about D/s and BDSM fantasy.
conceptualclarity
He may be an assh0le, but he's as rich as he could possibly be! :o)