Why is it so hard for a guy to admit that he messed up and apologize?

Update:
Well, I had a talk with him about this today, and he didn't exactly apologize for not checking his messages, but he did promise that he would check his messages from now on. And he understands that I won't call him while he's at work unless I have something really important to ask him or tell him, or he has called me or messaged me first and asked me to call him back.


There was one other thing that I was upset with him about. When we were eating at a restaurant last night and I was finishing up my food on my plate, he said that that was too much food, and I shouldn't be eating it all, because I would gain weight. He said, "I don't want to date a fat girl." I also talked to him about this today, and he said, "It was a joke. Geez, you take everything way too seriously." I said, "It wasn't funny." At first, he said, "I'm sorry that you got so upset," but I pointed out to him that that wasn't an apology. So then he said, "Okay, I'm sorry that I upset you." That was a little better, so I put it behind me.


I do feel better now. He really is a good guy. But of course, he's human and therefore not perfect. I'm not perfect either. We're both works in progress. But I think we do have a good thing overall, so I'm going to hang in there and do my best to make this relationship the best that it can be. And I believe that he will too. :)


Thanks, everyone, for answering my question. It's great to know that I can get some support and good advice (and many different points of view) here when I need it.

It's not a man thing

Gee, I learned early on in my marriage that when I'm wrong, I'm wrong and when I'm right, I'm wrong, so just accept the blame, apologize and move on.

I've since had more experiences with women who absolutely will not admit they've done anything wrong, even after they've done something terrible, and some men (well, one anyway) who will apologize when he knows that he messed up. So I probably should have worded this question "Why is so hard for some people to admit that they messed up and apologize?"

I still don't understand this about some people. One thing that baffles me is that some people will apologize profusely for little things, but never apologize at all for big things. What's up with that?

women find it hard as well some women never think they are wrong please don't generalise

That isn't something that's exclusive to just men.

It is the community that make any man should never apologize if did anything wrong. I always admit i am wrong if did something wrong. It is like a better way to make others know that i always apologize when i am wrong.

His behaviour doesn't really get questioned or maybe he really doesn't care.

It's usually ego. Admitting to you he's done wrong makes him feel inferior...which of course he is.

Lol if you figure that out please let me know. I feel like that's one of life's greatest mysteries! Lmao

cause people dont like to admit to themselves they did something wrong

Because he's a dickhead who thinks it is sign of weakness, with respect, obviously:)

Pride
And he's chicken too

:(