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I want to have kids someday but my boyfriend doesn’t. Otherwise I love almost everything about him. What should I do?

I know that if I do move on, he will be heartbroken and so will I. I don't think I'll ever find another guy quite like him. He has shown me, in more ways than I can mention here, how much he cares about me. He seems determined to give me everything that I want, except a baby. After all that he has done for me, I will feel like such a jerk for breaking up with him. And my family LOVES him. If I break up with him, they will probably demand an explanation, and I don't know what I will say to them. If I tell them about wanting kids, most, if not all, of them will probaby tell me that that just wasn't meant to happen for me. But maybe that is what I have to do. Also, there is another guy who has shown interest in me, but I don't know him very well. I don't know if he wants to get married and have kids, but he did ask me if I would like to go out to dinner with him sometime. But then, this was several months ago, and I haven't seen him in about six months. (At the time, my relationship with my current boyfriend was just beginning, and I wasn't sure where it was headed). I managed to find his phone number and email address through PeopleFinders, but I don't know what he would think if I called him or emailed him now. Would it be inappropriate to contact him at this point? Also, I should probably end things with my boyfriend before I do this, if I do. What do you think? Should I break up with my boyfriend and call or email this other guy? What if this other guy wonders why I am calling or emailing him now, and not several months ago? The plot thickens . . .
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BendairDundat
Don't get pregnant to trap him. That trick rarely works, and the child, or children are the ones who will suffer most.
BendairDundat
It's usually part of the thought process when a woman wants a baby and the man doesn't. I was just trying to plant a seed (no pun intended) before she thought of it.