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I want to have kids someday but my boyfriend doesn’t. Otherwise I love almost everything about him. What should I do?

I know that if I do move on, he will be heartbroken and so will I. I don't think I'll ever find another guy quite like him. He has shown me, in more ways than I can mention here, how much he cares about me. He seems determined to give me everything that I want, except a baby. After all that he has done for me, I will feel like such a jerk for breaking up with him. And my family LOVES him. If I break up with him, they will probably demand an explanation, and I don't know what I will say to them. If I tell them about wanting kids, most, if not all, of them will probaby tell me that that just wasn't meant to happen for me. But maybe that is what I have to do. Also, there is another guy who has shown interest in me, but I don't know him very well. I don't know if he wants to get married and have kids, but he did ask me if I would like to go out to dinner with him sometime. But then, this was several months ago, and I haven't seen him in about six months. (At the time, my relationship with my current boyfriend was just beginning, and I wasn't sure where it was headed). I managed to find his phone number and email address through PeopleFinders, but I don't know what he would think if I called him or emailed him now. Would it be inappropriate to contact him at this point? Also, I should probably end things with my boyfriend before I do this, if I do. What do you think? Should I break up with my boyfriend and call or email this other guy? What if this other guy wonders why I am calling or emailing him now, and not several months ago? The plot thickens . . .
underdogblogger
People who love others make sacrifices, especially important ones. Its done because of love on the other hand If doesn't want t Thats the best I have on the matter.hem as much as you do want them you should reconsider this option what is more important having kids or having a relationship? could you live with out him or live without kids?
saymyname91
You should follow your heart. Relationships are full of compromise. And if you both are always open and honest, things will always have a way of working themselves out. And who knows what the future will hold, weather you find yourself moving on or working through it. Best of luck :)
charben47
Be honest with yourself and decide how important is it to you to have kids. If you've always wanted them and you feel that part of your life will always be empty if you don't have any kids, find someone who will not only love you for being you, but who also wants children with you too.
Blogger422
You're with the wrong guy and if you're 41-45 and you still call guys you're with a boyfriend--they are using you. He's using you for everything (s@x, companionship and more).
BendairDundat
Don't get pregnant to trap him. That trick rarely works, and the child, or children are the ones who will suffer most.
BendairDundat
It's usually part of the thought process when a woman wants a baby and the man doesn't. I was just trying to plant a seed (no pun intended) before she thought of it.
greeneyedlady72
Cut your losses and move on or accept that he doesn't want kids. If he does t want kids and you end up pregnant, the one that loses out the most is the baby.
bijouxbroussard
Find a new boyfriend, or plan to adopt. He'll be able to change his mind in a few years and still father children. Time is NOT on your side in that regard.
invisible321
Let him know that not wanting kids is your DEAL BREAKER.
ArtxMusic
(: you know, the best choice is to wait until you both are ready for it.
xxorama
Get a news boyfriend, warming is optional
hylierandom
Considering your age? go find another BF ASAP!
Thevy29
Your boyfriends got friends hasn't he?
sniperblue
Steal a baby from Walmart.......
TheOneyouwerewarnedabout
Poke holes in the jimmy hats
Nicknewby
You know your priorities, we don't
jeanemae

 
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