Why do some men stay friends with abusive men?

Bingo chief

for most of my life I've been a loner and have never had many friends. So friendship with women isn't something that I'm super knowledgable about.

Probably because women staying with abusive men usually have completely different reasoning for doing so then when guys do it with each other.

I have a friend she was for about 6 months with an abusive boyfriend was even planning to move in with him

He physically hit her on more than one occasion he tried to rape her more than once she got around that by telling him she wanted to have sex wanted him though so he thought that the feeling of control sort of thing was not there so he did not want to rape her.

He even admitted to her once he had raped a former girlfriend

She thinking back got into the a isutation where the victim feels mentaly she needs her abuser like a kind of crutch so she defends his action.

He even threatened me to stay away from her once and apparently he had threatened other friends of her also so stay away but she sided with him and just said he is very jalous and does not like me having other friends male or female
So not always logical when it comes to abuse

ah, very true

true, my mom once defended my dad AFTER he hit and left bruises on her. it was like the twilight zone.

This is what you need to change
You need to make yourself some friends so you have a social life of your own and so you only have family to turn to.

Find something socially that interests you i think you need friends

probably true, but I have VERY poor luck with making friends. But, I'm planning on spending more time with family this summer. Thinking of going out to my grandparents and aunts house with my kidz. I think they'll enjoy it.