The more I became stoic,the more I became asexual

For the start I really feel that I'm asexual starting in my adolescence but it grew more when the time goes by and recently I became follower of "stoicism" philosophy, then I feel more and more asexual since in the past I've been able to crush/s to a girl or opposite sex (I'm male btw) and now I'm losing it the instinct to like or will to find a mate, I'm scared I don't want to lose my humanity

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SW-User

I'm asexual too. if you feel like the whole stoicism thing is somehow ruining your humanity because it's making you more asexual... maybe it's time to look for a new philosophy

Peterthestoic · 16-17, M

@SW-User so when you became asexual? Is it come naturally or is it influenced like mother telling from my childhood that I should not have girlfriend and have stable job and income first

SW-User

@Peterthestoic I realised it a few years ago. I'm attracted to fictional characters but not real people. my parents used to ask me "have you found a girlfriend yet??" but these days I think they're catching on that i have no attraction to people.

Peterthestoic · 16-17, M

@SW-User based on my research most are asexual are forced to be asexual because of lacks of mating choices or extreme competition for mates but in my case I can strike a conversation to a girl or women and some of the women I talk are fitted to my standards but why I don't feel attraction to them. Is it because I don't just look on physical appearance and consider that attitude/personality and intellect is a factor to mate?

SW-User

@Peterthestoic I got no idea man. I've never really had an issue with finding people to date personally. before I realised I was asexual I had had girlfriends before. so I don't know if that's true.

SW-User

@Peterthestoic maybe it's an emotional thing. you need some sort of connection with the other person first before you're able to think about dating.

Peterthestoic · 16-17, M

@SW-User yeah I feel that too since I don't really find beautiful women interesting (in sexual way) and I also think that spending your resources and time for just limited time of pleasure is a unproductive.