If you were asked to talk about your romantic life objectively, could you describe it in primarily positive terms?
I'd have trouble doing that, largely as I know much of the failure-to-launch so-to-speak about my romantic endeavours has been my own fault(s), a lot of which I believe is out of my control due to childhood conditioning and experiences that are hard-wired into me, combined with the actual romantic experiences I've had that haven't been overly positive or mutually rewarding with good outcomes (apart from my amazing kids).
I know my experiences are just mine, and everyone else's will be different.