If a man says to you he has no social life because he has kids, does it sound like he's saying he's single or complaining about his relationship?

@Justsimple we are at the stage of "knowing each other" where we would want to know if each other were taken or not. You talk to someone enough eventually the topic comes up of if they're with anyone but its invasive to ask as we're not close. It did seem like he was telling me something through his comment on no social life and even asked if I could relate. I'm unsure if he was telling me hes with someone or giving a subtle invitation.

@SweetFantasy dont u want to ask him.....im sure if he enjoys your company there must be some chemistry but ask before anything else happens so your heart doeant get broken later on

@Justsimple exactly where my head is at. We have a lot of chemistry and affinity but he's kept things appropriate and hasnt made it obvious how he feels. There are times he acts a certain way or talks to me or looks at me a certain way and it confirmation he really has feelings for me. Then sometimes he pulls back and tries to keep his distance and I think that's possibly his guilt kicking in if he is with someone. I have asked him personal questions before and he takes a moment to think carefully and then answers truthfully so I know he will always be truthful and tell me if hes with someone even if he likes me and know telling me would mean I would leave him be.

@SweetFantasy so maybe he is holding back because he likes you too much to lose you.....but i think just go for it and ask the question and get that out the way and then ask him how he feels about you.....

@Justsimple he is holding back and what you said makes sense. I wondered why he could be open and tell me about his kids but not once mention their mother/his possible partner. Maybe it's a touchy subject for him.

@SweetFantasy do u have him on some chat app ?

@Justsimple that's the thing if I could find him on social media I would have messaged him long ago but I guess that just saves me from looking silly messaging him privately. He doesnt have any social media that i can find and if he is taken and feeling how i feel and how he possibly feels would be wrong so I wouldn't ask for his number and neither would he ask or give it.

@SweetFantasy so would u rather not know and just be patient and hurting to know the truth before even thinking to ask about himself.....i think its just normal to.ask dont u think ?....or are u old skool and want hime to open up for himself but you dont know how long that will take tbh

@Justsimple I'm quite impatient and upfront about my feelings but because he is so guarded it has caused me to mirror him and go at his pace. So many times i have wanted to just go up to him and ask. I've wanted to confess my feelings for so long I've written a few notes explaining things but every time i go to give him the note he's either not there or with someone so it's like a sign I shouldn't. Then I see notes are childish so I rip them up and vow to just talk to him when i see him but then he's distant that day and it's hard enough just saying hi to him. You could probably say just leave him alone then but I would still have feelings for him. Until I know if he likes me or not I can't stop liking him.

@SweetFantasy he helps a lot of people and prob get hit on by a lot of other women also....he would prob just break your little caring heart.....rather let him chase you if he is interested.....play hard to get like most women do

@Justsimple he isn't necesarily eye candy or confident. He's often by himself not socialising but observing everything. I've witnessed another girl trying to flirt with him and giving him bedroom eyes and he shut her down he wouldnt talk to her and would turn his back to her whenever she came close. He doesnt like people who come on strong apparently and I never have I think he sees I'm reserved like he is. So when I make a bold move like are you married he may tense up