I Think About Having An Affair

Whenever my husband and I have a fight, which in the last year or so seems to be 2 or 3 times a week, when it gets to a point of his anger getting out of control, he ends up calling me all sorts of demeaning names and points out all of my faults. He's loud. My kids hear all about me......I don't imagine they will ever forget the things they have heard and it makes me so sad.

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Bleedingheart11 · 46-50, F

This sounds like emotional abuse. I went through it with my ex-husband for years. It wasn't until I looked up emotional abuse and started reading about it, that I finally saw it for what it was. After that, I could recognize it...I could see the signs of it...I could see the cycle of abuse and I could predict when it was going to happen again. It was textbook. I started going to a women's empowerment group through the family advocates in my town. It was there that I got the validation that I needed to know that I wasn't going crazy...that this was a real thing. Once my eyes were opened to it, I couldn't close them again. Like I said....he is now my EX husband. The best thing I ever did for myself!

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I know it is. I'm just trying to navigate how to get through it all with kids who think we are BOTH the best. He's good at the words he chooses and he's even better twisting later what he said. I know it's abuse. I'm glad to hear your story. Maybe I will need to read it every now and then as motivation. Thanks for the note.

Bleedingheart11 · 46-50, F

@Carolinablues: if you need to talk or just vent, message me. I can't tell you what to do, but I might be able to clear some things up for you.