I Think About Having An Affair

Whenever my husband and I have a fight, which in the last year or so seems to be 2 or 3 times a week, when it gets to a point of his anger getting out of control, he ends up calling me all sorts of demeaning names and points out all of my faults. He's loud. My kids hear all about me......I don't imagine they will ever forget the things they have heard and it makes me so sad.

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sweetiepiehuggs · 41-45, F

I can understand. Me and my husband fight so much. He has such a destructive temper. I get so tired of being yelled at all the time. I think its natural to dream of something better. Though cheating doesn't always make things better either. It could get even uglier for you. But I get it. I really do. Hugs hun. I hope you find a way out of your hell.

SW-User

No I know, your right. I don't even have it in me to cheat. My imagination of happiness sometimes makes me feel like a teenager. Thanks for the hugs, it's hard to live with a destructive temper, just need to figure it all out.

sweetiepiehuggs · 41-45, F

Whenever you need to talk just message me. Maybe we can figure it out together. 🙂

SW-User

Hey that would be great. I have actually never posted anything about any of this. I feel sorta...relieved a bit. Maybe relieved is not a good word. Anyhow, thanks for sure, and you too. Im a good listener. Its the holidays, we shouldn't feel sad right?

sweetiepiehuggs · 41-45, F

No we should be happy. But it seems we fight more around the holidays. I don't remember a holiday where we didn't fight. Talking about it helps. At least you know you can go to a place where people support you.

CaptMike2 · M

@sweetiepiehuggs: ladies, it takes two to fight. I totally believe your husband is an ass for saying those things about you in front of your children, should not happen ever! I'm not saying you should roll over, just pick your fights an where your going to argue. Not within the kids ear shot. If you talk softly, he will either get more angry which might be fun to watch OR he will calm down an talk at your level.

sweetiepiehuggs · 41-45, F

@CaptMike2: it doesn't always work that way Mike. Sometimes the fight picks you. Even if your quiet anger still flares because they think you're ignoring them. I don't think it takes two. All it takes is one to get angry and sometimes the other has to eendure the ride.

CaptMike2 · M

@sweetiepiehuggs: the holidays always add stress to any relationship. But if he flair up like that and your not engaging then sounds like he has an anger control problem. Would he be up for couples counseling? It won't take long for the counselor to zero in on that problem.