The reasons I hate sex chat

1) it takes 2 - 3 hours to get anywhere worth while. I don't have that kind of time to waste.

2) it ends up being the only thing you end up talking about. It gets boring and stale real fast.

3) it tells me how simplistic the other person is. I'm a parachatter, meaning, I write paragraphs because I'm a writer by nature. If you can't do the same, you're boring

4) if the only thing you have to offer me is sexy chat, you literally have no value to me.

5) it tells me you aren't a well rounded person who knows how to engage someone in the right ways.

6) I'm going to lose interest in you within days, so I don't even want to start.

Seriously, sexy chat *is* fun, but if I partake in it with you, it means I literally don't care about you or who you are and am happy to use you.

Is that what you really want? A fake ass person?

That's why I don't.

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anythingoes477 · 31-35, M

Question.........1) .2-3 hours? You are using your hands......right?? I mean there are vids showing you how.
2) Ahhhhh.......yes. If it's S-e-x c-h-a-t................its what you talk about...............Sex.
3).Paragraphs to read????...........while mastrurbating????.......that is kind of overkill don't you think. Kinda kills the moment.. KISS principle........Hold dick...touch clit....go for it is kinda more like it. Just saying.
4) VERY few have nothing more to offer than sex chat...........but DURING sex chat.....that is kind of the point, isn't it? Offering JUST sex chat.
5) Just saying (again) the topic.....for the moment.......IS sex chat. If you want well rounded............talk again about other things.........then judge how well rounded a person is. Surely you don't think a discussion on economics or politics or current affairs should be part of a "sex chat" ?
6) This one is spot on. Can't argue here. Its momentary fun..........not match making for life.
7) Frankly.......yes. Sex chat is fantasy......so fake ass fantasy is the core of sex chat. Imagination and fantasy......about some one "fake".....some thing fake happening.

I won't ask you too.

FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F

@anythingoes477 You are making the assumption that I use sex chat for masturbation. I do not. It's also rather ew if I know the other person is using it for that. So yes, it is 2 to 3 hours of time spent that has very little benefit to me other than stretching my writing chops. Mostly, with the right person, it becomes mutual story writing. I've only experienced that twice in my life. Usually it's just "oh yeah..." "mmmmmm" "that feels good" "i wish we were really doing this" which is completely yawn city for me. Boring and akin to small 🥱🥱🥱

Also, dirty talk is a big turn off for me. The moment that comes out, you've lost me. I'm no longer interested.

The usual reasons people engage in these things are the exact reasons I dislike it. So this post is to keep people from wasting their time.

MaBalzEsHari · M

@FoxyGoddess And sex chat would have what other purpose???????? I think ur asexual...........and if so...........sex chat would about as useful to you as a guy who owns a camel and says he needs a mechanic. No wonder sex don't chat don't appeal to you. Sex itself don't. So no wonder................

FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F

@MaBalzEsHari I am a greysexual, so it can have its uses, like helping me feel closer to someone. It isn't the sex I'm interested in as much as it is the intimacy with another person who has reached that place where I wish to engage with them.

That is pretty much no one right now, so yes, trying to get me to engage in it is useless.