The reasons I hate sex chat

1) it takes 2 - 3 hours to get anywhere worth while. I don't have that kind of time to waste.

2) it ends up being the only thing you end up talking about. It gets boring and stale real fast.

3) it tells me how simplistic the other person is. I'm a parachatter, meaning, I write paragraphs because I'm a writer by nature. If you can't do the same, you're boring

4) if the only thing you have to offer me is sexy chat, you literally have no value to me.

5) it tells me you aren't a well rounded person who knows how to engage someone in the right ways.

6) I'm going to lose interest in you within days, so I don't even want to start.

Seriously, sexy chat *is* fun, but if I partake in it with you, it means I literally don't care about you or who you are and am happy to use you.

Is that what you really want? A fake ass person?

That's why I don't.

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anythingoes477 · 31-35, M

Just playing Devil's advocate..............but isn't sexting using each other? And so yes...........I'm pretty sure when people come here to sex chat........they DO want a fantasy....a fake person....they can make into whatever or whoever they want in their minds.

The value that has to someone depends on how they view sex If a one is asexual then sexting....sex itself.....isn't a big deal anyway. But if one is sexual........then that is a whole 'nuther' deal. So it may not be the way a person approaches you sexually you have fault with. Its being approached at all.

FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F

@anythingoes477

but isn't sexting using each other

Sometimes. That is how it should be, but not how it always is. Even in sex chat, there can be less give and more take.

they DO want a fantasy....a fake person....they can make into whatever or whoever they want in their minds.

This makes me sad to think. Especially when so many are saying they are so lonely and looking for a connection, but that connection amounts to, "i really want to put my d in you." So which is it? A fantasy created repository or a meaningful connection? These two are not the same.

So it may not be the way a person approaches you sexually you have fault with. Its being approached at all.

That is a fair point. There are times when I am open to sexy chat, though those are very rare. They would have a lot more meaning if I have already established a connection. Otherwise, it really is just me typing things that sound good. And that makes me just rather not from the start.

anythingoes477 · 31-35, M

@FoxyGoddess If there is less give and more take with a partner...in person or online........move on. That is ALWAYS headed for a bad end. Life is too short for selfish. A good lover knows you are only successful lover if you please the other person.

Connection can mean different things to different people. To the very inhibited if someone just says hi to them and they don't respond back....that is major ground forward so is perceived as much more than it actually is. A connection can be started with sexting.........if it goes further and becomes friends too.