I made a previous post about a guy who studies the Torah, age 33 soon and a virgin. It's an online relationship, never met him yet. I told him my experiences with two people and it made me cry. Now fast forward, we still talking but yesterday morning after a night of me saying, i still "sometimes wish i could go back to my ex because he wouldn't ask me these questions cause it would be pure," he lost it. I told him the morning our last interaction was in January sexually and he left. I deactivated my instagram cause that's how we communicate. He reached out on my number 2 hrs after asking me to return to Instagram, i did. He then said he wants to be friends snd wants to do bible study cause it will help me get over my ex so I can be free for my future husband. I agreed.
This morning now he said he met up last night with his ex to cuddle an kiss. And that he was planning this morning to have sex with her and got a box of condoms! Mind you, this is a girl he says he can't consider for a wife cause she does not believe in God. They were off for a little of 2 months, i started talking to him in September. Thisbis a gurl he had an agreement with to do oral sex but he never had full on sex with....
We started saying i love yous etc. But he thinks i am attached to my first ex and this guys "owns" my heart. He also has hangups as a virgin. I am into this person and want him but I've had to bare my soul snd such.
I spoke to someone about this and they feel him running to her hours after is a red flag. He actually told me too which hurts a great deal.
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@LoneGirl101 You both have different priorities. True love isn't a t!t for tat. "Oh you had 2 bfs so Ill get two gfs! Oh you're not a virgin so I'll go boing boing with another woman to even it out!" Take a break and reconsider your actions. If you loved each other, you wouldn't try to hurt each other or get even or play games. And a lot of this goes to him. He's not here.
So this is for you: Quit while you're ahead. Once the w0unds are inflicted, it'll take you decades to heal, if you ever.
@rrraksamam i was NOT trying to hurt him, why i avoided talking about my past so much. I asked God for forgiveness from that but he thinks it can tell a woman will cheat if she still has feelings for her ex. And i didn't believe he'd go back to a her who he doesn't love but wanted oral from.
@rrraksamam yeah, he legit said we should be friends before he did it. Told me this in the morning, wanted to do bible stufy only with me and then did whatever in the night
@LoneGirl101 The signs are all there for you. Take the cue.
I understand. You're in love. You're hesitant to throw it all away. You're hopeful. You're wishful. You don't want to watch all your feelings and emotions and effort go down the drain so quickly.
But he needs to want you as much as you want him. He needs to understand you as much as you understand him. And if he doesn't, you're on the Titanic. Put your life vest on, get on the rescue boat and don't look back. Yes, it's going to hurt. But the longer this goes on, the more pain you can expect. What's your endurance?
