Unexpected reaction
I had put some restrictions on what was acceptable as far as physical contact when my boyfriend and I decided to get back together. And he had agreed whole heartedly. Things were going great and I had felt the true love from him.
After a couple weeks of just light kissing I remember how I used to be so comfortable in his arms without my top on and had decided that maybe that would be acceptable. And I was so glad I did. We both were comfortable that way. And he wasn't pushing anything.
We had started dating again in February. One Sunday morning in early May he was coming by to pick me up to go to church. My parents were gone for the day. When he came to the door I greeted him in a pair of babydoll pajamas. I had decided that the restrictions could be lifted.
We kissed and messed around for awhile and I led him to my bedroom and laid back on the bed reaching up for him. But instead of him responding he just sat down on the edge of the bed.
I asked what was wrong. He didn't really answer. So I asked don't you want to do it. His reply was oh he would love to do it but couldn't as long as I hadn't let go of Kurt. I said I had and he said that it was obvious I hadn't.
I didn't understand what he was getting at and he pointed to the picture of Kurt and me beside the bed. I reached over and turned it face down. He continued to just sit there . I knew there was still something wrong and asked what it was and he said you are still wearing his ring.
I quickly took it off.
Then he told me that if I were to have sex with him I had to send the ring back to Kurt. I told him I didn't have to as it was a birthday present. He told me that it had to go back because of what it stood for. And he added "I don't ever want to see that ring again. And I want that picture destroyed."
I wasn't out of the mood but he obviously wasn't wanting sex just to have sex. I had to make some decisions. So I went down stairs and fixed him breakfast and spent the next hour talking. I had taken the top of and was only in my panties. I went back upstairs and got the picture and took it out of the frame opened the fireplace and burned it.
I got dressed and we spent the day together as planned.
The next morning I talked to my mother about how to send the ring back. A couple of days later I sent it off. I hated to see it go but I knew it had to go. I still hadn't told my boyfriend that I was his but his stand that Sunday made my mind up.
The first Sunday in June my boyfriend had a trumpet solo at church. Just before he walked on stage he told me " When I walk off that stage I expect you to have your mind made up. Either you are going to marry me or not. Today is the day."
I listened to him play and knew I should have been on the piano. That last note played and he turned and walked towards me. I threw my arms around him and kissed him deeply. Then said,"I sent the ring back a month ago. Yes I want to marry you."
A couple of days later he asked my Dad for my hand. And my Dad fully approved. I had a ring on my finger only this time it was true love.
I had given him my virginity almost a year before. And we didn't wait until we got married to do it again but when we did it it was wonderful as everything was right.
After a couple weeks of just light kissing I remember how I used to be so comfortable in his arms without my top on and had decided that maybe that would be acceptable. And I was so glad I did. We both were comfortable that way. And he wasn't pushing anything.
We had started dating again in February. One Sunday morning in early May he was coming by to pick me up to go to church. My parents were gone for the day. When he came to the door I greeted him in a pair of babydoll pajamas. I had decided that the restrictions could be lifted.
We kissed and messed around for awhile and I led him to my bedroom and laid back on the bed reaching up for him. But instead of him responding he just sat down on the edge of the bed.
I asked what was wrong. He didn't really answer. So I asked don't you want to do it. His reply was oh he would love to do it but couldn't as long as I hadn't let go of Kurt. I said I had and he said that it was obvious I hadn't.
I didn't understand what he was getting at and he pointed to the picture of Kurt and me beside the bed. I reached over and turned it face down. He continued to just sit there . I knew there was still something wrong and asked what it was and he said you are still wearing his ring.
I quickly took it off.
Then he told me that if I were to have sex with him I had to send the ring back to Kurt. I told him I didn't have to as it was a birthday present. He told me that it had to go back because of what it stood for. And he added "I don't ever want to see that ring again. And I want that picture destroyed."
I wasn't out of the mood but he obviously wasn't wanting sex just to have sex. I had to make some decisions. So I went down stairs and fixed him breakfast and spent the next hour talking. I had taken the top of and was only in my panties. I went back upstairs and got the picture and took it out of the frame opened the fireplace and burned it.
I got dressed and we spent the day together as planned.
The next morning I talked to my mother about how to send the ring back. A couple of days later I sent it off. I hated to see it go but I knew it had to go. I still hadn't told my boyfriend that I was his but his stand that Sunday made my mind up.
The first Sunday in June my boyfriend had a trumpet solo at church. Just before he walked on stage he told me " When I walk off that stage I expect you to have your mind made up. Either you are going to marry me or not. Today is the day."
I listened to him play and knew I should have been on the piano. That last note played and he turned and walked towards me. I threw my arms around him and kissed him deeply. Then said,"I sent the ring back a month ago. Yes I want to marry you."
A couple of days later he asked my Dad for my hand. And my Dad fully approved. I had a ring on my finger only this time it was true love.
I had given him my virginity almost a year before. And we didn't wait until we got married to do it again but when we did it it was wonderful as everything was right.
