Turns out I’ve been overthinking it

A while ago, I posted a question: ‘How do you decide to commit to someone?’ In that question, I shared my doubts about committing to someone. From the answers I received, many were really interesting and gave me new insights. Most people said I was overthinking it and that if I found the right person, the doubts would naturally go away. Some also said it’s better to build a close friendship without immediately discussing commitment because pushing for commitment too early might actually stem from insecurity.

So, I want to share my story. This past week, I’ve been getting to know a girl (through a dating app). When we first started chatting, I immediately felt a connection. We quickly moved away from texting on the app and started talking elsewhere. I even decided to uninstall the dating app altogether. We’ve been doing voice calls regularly, and last night, I went on my first date with her.

From our conversations and meeting her in person, I came to two realizations:

Maybe I’ve become more secure with myself, so I didn’t feel the usual doubts when talking to her.
Or maybe I’m just naturally compatible with her.
This made me realize that my previous experiences with other girls might have been one-sided—like unrequited love, in a way. There were times when I tried really hard to make a girl like me, or situations where a girl was trying hard to get close to me. But with this girl I met last night, everything felt so natural. I don’t feel like I’m trying to make her like me, and I’m not forcing myself to like her either. It feels like being with a normal friend, yet I want to be with her and can’t wait to meet her again.

I’d like to hear your thoughts on my story, and if you have any advice about my situation, I’d really appreciate it.