I dont understand why a guy asks around about you but doesnt approach.

Girls, we can't have it both ways... we cannot expect guys to suddenly present themselves in our presence in some noble sort of way, when women won't show even a cursory interest in guys who look her way for fear of being raped at gunpoint at high noon while she's on her lunch break.

The problem with western culture is that it still carries way too much British Colonialism at it's foundational core, which is like using animal lard when you bake cookies because your great grandmother always did.