Do good men exists?

Most of my experiences with men were bad. Most men seem egoistic type who come in my life who tend to abuse, betray , put me down or be emotionally unavailable. Do any other women have, good experiences with men who treat them good? Sometimes all my experiences make me question the existance of good men, sometimes i feel are all men pretending and men only want to suppress, feel superior, control or use women.

Maybe i am bad at judging men or choosing men who are bad and good. Idk what i am doing wrong

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Rokan · 31-35, M

Your experiences are so little compared to what reality is. I am a man and do you know what i wake up doing every day? I take care of my grandma by getting her groceries, paying her bills, taking her to her medical appointments, making sure she had 24 hour home care coverage so she can live in her home and not a facility. I've sacrificed career and relationships to give back to her so she wouldn't have to suffer as much.

My mom who is an alcohol abuser would lie steal and cheat and hurt anyone to gain something including my grandma who can't even move on her own now.

I don't know what your definition of a good or bad man is but to imply through question that they might not exist really shits on so many of us.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@Rokan it's my personal experience, maybe i am meeting or attracting only bad type men and no good men. Bad means who use, abuse, betray, cheat , feel superior to women, pull women down, etc Good means total opposite qualities of bad.

Rokan · 31-35, M

@sahi81 and your personal experience is so little. Do you know there is 8 billion people in this world? You are telling me you never seen one man doing good things? You let a few bad experiences change your whole insight on what reality is to sling insults out to us?

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@Rokan i had many repeated bad experiences with men who at first acted overly-good. Idk whom to trust. I think society too kinda over-spoils men and gives them more importance , so most men r egoistic. I personally never saw an humble man in my life

Rokan · 31-35, M

@sahi81 you aren't being very humble yourself. To admit your experiences don't define reality as a whole would be humbling. Its just like the pitbull argument. I saw a bad pitbull so now i think they all are bad. Or because media only shows them in a bad light i have to be scared of them. There is good and bad people everywhere and we are all flawed. If you search for the bad you will find it every time, but thats not really fair to the people trying to do and be good.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@Rokan tbh idk if my personal experiences r real or not. Maybe it could be due to the culture i live in i feel this way. I am trying to look for good, hoping i will find them

Rokan · 31-35, M

@sahi81 where are you looking?

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@Rokan everywhere! online, rl, videos, etc I am trying to observe

sahi81 · 22-25, F

i want to try to look in new places and meet new ppl

Rokan · 31-35, M

@sahi81 how about doctors and people who do volunteer or charity work? Have you ever thought about volunteering like for habitat for humanity or something?

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@Rokan yes... i thought but wasn't able to, due to being busy .Even one of my friend tried it, she coulnd't find anyone good there

Rokan · 31-35, M

@sahi81 i was in the military and busy as well but still put in many hours to the community. It can be done, and theres many places to volunteer. Cant give up after one or even a few.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@Rokan actually just i can't see ppl suffering,.... i can't see blood either while helping animals in accidents. I get overwhelmed so i don't do volunterring..... i want to do volnteering where there is no suffering in it which i don't have to see.

Rokan · 31-35, M

@sahi81 habitat for humanity you build houses, adopt a high way, you pick up trash, YMCA, lots of stuff out there not involving suffering.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@Rokan ok, i will try to look for something like those. Till now i only tried to consider for animals and women. They involved lot of suffering in them which i couldn't see and got overwhelemed and avoided

Rokan · 31-35, M

@sahi81 the only i know for sure is if you want different results you need to do different things

Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M

@sahi81 try church.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@Tastyfrzz I'm not religious 😅

Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M

@sahi81 wellll...
Sounds like an avenue you haven't tried then.