Do good men exists?

@SomeMichGuy Many lol. i tried making male friends, dating few and also talking to elder men just like that. i think it's more than 300-500. Maybe i was in wrong places such as online, neighborhood or bad ones come in women's life more.

@SomeMichGuy some were decent unlike most but i never got close with decent or good ones to see get to know them , so idk if they r geneinely good or not. I

@sahi81 Three to five HUNDRED?!

Even if you've done it since you were 16...6 ‐ 9 yrs

that's 33 - 83 per YEAR.

Come back when you get serious about relationships. You can't get to know that many persons in a year well enough to evaluate them.

Trying on people isn't like trying on bracelets.

@SomeMichGuy many were online, friendship apps.or games 😅 so, they r many whom i talked with....close ones were only few. They all also turned out bad, at first they were overly nice. In real life i don't talk to men much and also many men around me put me down often.

@sahi81 Online...ugh. I think you should discount that. Just look at how guys HERE go "ga-ga" over even really ugly women in the hopes of seeing more of their flesh.

And posts by various women show that guys here are often very oddly demanding.

I think not dealing face-to-face makes people WORSE.

But I'm truly sorry about how guys have been to you in person...and I can't figure that one out, unless the pandemic has led us all back to a Lord of the Flies-style interaction...

@SomeMichGuy it happened to me too, at first i couldn't understand, in friendship apps, i am average looking but many , more than 100+ men ( even very good looking men) are giving me attention , flirting, trying to manipulate, passing comments, asking me pics, etc. I think they don't care how a girl/woman looks, they just want too women's body parts. Even in real life some men pass comments sometimes, and some of my neighbour men doesn't seem to look at me with good intentions and try to talk to me with bad intentions. I live in kinda male-dominated society. Many men seem to want to feel superior to me and put me down, not all men. Maybe bad men do it more to many women to spread their beliefs, so i tend to come across bad men more. I feel scared to interact with men due to all this in rl sometimes. Unless when around lot of people like in class, public, etc, though people don't show their real self, who know whom i can trust to be alone with. Alone or between 4 walls, men can do anything and get away.

I heard that bad men look for women/girls more so women tend to come across bad more. Good ones don't look and be picky or be at home most of time. It could be that;s why too i feel so negative about men being bad to women.

And i agree that the men who gave me attention, didn't have any value for me, they didn't show much interest , even if showed, they lost interest in me easily and chased other girl, they see women as bodies and lose interest quickly. Many of them don't seem to have any respect for women an seem prideful and shallow and insecure. They do nothing for women or do only small things which takes less to no energy. Such pervert men are not good to date. Some might even date just to get one thing.

online, only one place i met few decent or normal men till now. it was "blahtherapy" , now it's not working i think. Idk those men personally though. Never asked their socials.

@sahi81 Wow...you have been through a lot. But I think you also have some insight and can use that to add to your wisdom.

I think it is easy to see who is pressuring for pics; like pornography, people who only want pics are always looking for something new. Porn takes in people and tends to grind them up and spit them out.

@SomeMichGuy yes, i think women need to be wiser where and what type men they are interacting with. At first, i was so naive about what type men are out there but now i can identify perverts kinda better. . I feel still , even now, i can't understand men well to differentiate good and bad intentions ones.. I now only hang out in webistes or apps which take strict actions on reports and safer for women, that's where more decent men hang out i think. And also in real life, i don't be alone with any male, i only interact with them when people are around. I am hoping next time, i get good men in my life. Till then i want to keep searching and cutting off bad ones.

@SomeMichGuy btw if u don't mind can i know ur age? u talk wise, i am curious

@sahi81 Oh, I am ancient. My first job was in Ashurbanipal's library. The clay dust was something.

But it set me up for my second job, at Alexandria. If only the Romans hadn't burned it down...

@SomeMichGuy never heard those before 😅, now they don't exists? basically u r senior citizen?

@sahi81 You have never heard of the greatest King of Assyria?! Ashurbanipal had an impressive personal library, and they believe that they have identified clay tablets on which he might have practiced writing.

[Most of the clay tablets from the ancient world in cuneiform deal with inventories...]

The Library at Alexandria was apparently burned by the Romans, and the loss of it is often referred to as the single greatest loss of culture ever for the West / Near East.

[Many ancient Greek and Roman texts which we have know were either found in Egyptian dumps--hot + dry = preserved!--or in scholastic archives set up by the Moors in Spain (texts were translated into Arabic in the East and carried across N. Africa and then injected into Moorish places of learning in Spain, to later be discovered by Westerners when the Moors were pushed out). But many Greek and Roman writers are largely lost to time; some have no or only fragmentary representation in the texts which have been found.]

It depends upon what one considers a senior; I am not "of retirement age" in the US. But I am definitely older than you, if your age range is correct.

@SomeMichGuy yes, i never heard . i am not into history, i don't like that subject 😅 U had an unique job though

@sahi81 Lol

I was teasing, of course. The "historical method" can be used to study ANYthing you like, and traditional "history" can be taught poorly or well.