I'm in a bit of a mind fog, I have two options guys you can just pick Option A,B or C.

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A.Move in with him to Germany, accept his stance on my parents

B. Break up, change city, start taking life by myself and maybe do some business with a girl friend

C. Become a nun.

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Short Brief Summary: 5 yr old relationship, we need to relocate. Initial plans of moving to a country have been shunned by my parents that no longer want me there with them. My partner is pissed, never wants to see them again, hates them. I cannot live without my parents and my family in my life in some sort, I love them too much and I know my parents want the best for me. So its a dealbreaker.

Option A- Do I move with him to a new country I dont speak the language to, and I wont be probably able to work in for quite a while while he focuses on his career?

Option B- Break up with him, move to a different city of where I currently am and move in with a girlfriend and just try to work together on things.

Option C- Remove contact with everyone and everything, become a nun.

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Pop88 · 36-40, M

Your parents don't want you to be there with them? But you insist you want to be close to them?

There is lots of information missing here. Why does your bf hate your parents?
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Do not move to a foreign country with someone unless they are committed to you. Make him marry you first if you do this. If he wants this commitment from you, he has to reciprocate that commitment.

Ratatouillesque · 26-30, F

@Pop88 Sound advice from you which I agree with. Backstory to the backstory, we are both living in Turkey and working there, due to the countries economical collapse which doesn't seem to ever end we have decided that for our future we need to move out to find better opportunities. Since I am also a Romanian citizen I have told him that I d go to Romania to work in my fathers factory while he goes to Germany to find good opp in IT sector. My parents knew I was going to Romania and in the last 100m of the race, they are telling me that I should they can handle the factory there and that if I go there its just going to be the same as in Turkey, meaning my father would not be "that helpful" financially and with everything else. He felt that this sudden change was the ultimate betrayal as after his germany trip he was supposed to come back to me to Romania. Now he s saying that if thats the choice they made they should not be expecting anything and that we will go away together and start our life.
God Im sorry for keeping on blabbering about this.