I'm in a bit of a mind fog, I have two options guys you can just pick Option A,B or C.

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A.Move in with him to Germany, accept his stance on my parents

B. Break up, change city, start taking life by myself and maybe do some business with a girl friend

C. Become a nun.

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Short Brief Summary: 5 yr old relationship, we need to relocate. Initial plans of moving to a country have been shunned by my parents that no longer want me there with them. My partner is pissed, never wants to see them again, hates them. I cannot live without my parents and my family in my life in some sort, I love them too much and I know my parents want the best for me. So its a dealbreaker.

Option A- Do I move with him to a new country I dont speak the language to, and I wont be probably able to work in for quite a while while he focuses on his career?

Option B- Break up with him, move to a different city of where I currently am and move in with a girlfriend and just try to work together on things.

Option C- Remove contact with everyone and everything, become a nun.

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Threepio

Logically: Your parents and family are FOREVER... I would urge you to not burn that bridge no matter what the circumstances. Nobody and no amount of anything will replace your parents and family. Moving to an unknown (to you) country without a support system in place is risky at best. You'll be trapped and alone.... Your relationship with your partner kind of sounds "shaky".... otherwise, he would be trying to work out a solution WITH you instead of reacting the way he is (by treating your parents/family as if they are now persona non grata and "he/she" is the only one that can truly be in your corner at the moment.)

So you ask "guys you can just pick Option A,B or C"

I pick B, because it is a better choice than A and I know you wouldn't ever like C

Ratatouillesque · 26-30, F

@Threepio This is definitely what I also believe. The thought of not being in touch with my parents or especially my younger sisters would actually kill me. I cannot nor do I ever want to live my life without them. The reasoning behind his motive would be that albeit he respects them, he can see that they are quite toxic sometimes. Nonetheless, it is not an option. Either he accepts them or I am actually going to leave. And it would probably be the hardest thing I d ever do.