I'm in a bit of a mind fog, I have two options guys you can just pick Option A,B or C.

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A.Move in with him to Germany, accept his stance on my parents

B. Break up, change city, start taking life by myself and maybe do some business with a girl friend

C. Become a nun.

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Short Brief Summary: 5 yr old relationship, we need to relocate. Initial plans of moving to a country have been shunned by my parents that no longer want me there with them. My partner is pissed, never wants to see them again, hates them. I cannot live without my parents and my family in my life in some sort, I love them too much and I know my parents want the best for me. So its a dealbreaker.

Option A- Do I move with him to a new country I dont speak the language to, and I wont be probably able to work in for quite a while while he focuses on his career?

Option B- Break up with him, move to a different city of where I currently am and move in with a girlfriend and just try to work together on things.

Option C- Remove contact with everyone and everything, become a nun.

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Domking · 61-69, M

I didn't vote in hurry but I was thinking.
The question that comes to my mind - are your parents able to look after themselves or would your parents be in difficulty in your absence? Perhaps being in India, I was raising this question, here we tend to look after elders, or stay separate but nearby, (like I did) but in Western society young people usually move out & go away.

Anyway A would be better than C or B

Ratatouillesque · 26-30, F

@Domking Yes I totally understand, and my family is turkish and romanian and not going to lie the turkish culture is exactly the same as you guys.
They are quite well now... they are in their 50s, they have my two young sisters but I cannot live with the guilt of being somewhere so far away(For instance, a different continent) that it would require a huge effort to go to there. I want to have them in my life as much as possible.

Domking · 61-69, M

@Ratatouillesque listen to your inner voice

Ratatouillesque · 26-30, F

@Domking Im afraid it left me to my despair at the moment.