I'm in a bit of a mind fog, I have two options guys you can just pick Option A,B or C.

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A.Move in with him to Germany, accept his stance on my parents

B. Break up, change city, start taking life by myself and maybe do some business with a girl friend

C. Become a nun.

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Short Brief Summary: 5 yr old relationship, we need to relocate. Initial plans of moving to a country have been shunned by my parents that no longer want me there with them. My partner is pissed, never wants to see them again, hates them. I cannot live without my parents and my family in my life in some sort, I love them too much and I know my parents want the best for me. So its a dealbreaker.

Option A- Do I move with him to a new country I dont speak the language to, and I wont be probably able to work in for quite a while while he focuses on his career?

Option B- Break up with him, move to a different city of where I currently am and move in with a girlfriend and just try to work together on things.

Option C- Remove contact with everyone and everything, become a nun.

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Northwest · M

When you learn German, are you going to be able to find a job that will keep you interested, and gives you the opportunity to be on your own, in case things don't go so well in Germany or you need something to fall back on? That should be question #1.

If yes, then move with the guy you love, and want to have children with. Flight time between Bucharest and Berlin is less than 90 minutes, or if you like the scenery, you can both share driving and be there in 12 hours.

Your parents will get over their hurt feelings, if they want to see the grandkids, and they will and he will sulk for a while, but will come around as well.

Ratatouillesque · 26-30, F

@Northwest Honestly this is where my insecurity regarding this matter stems from. I am unsure of how I would be able to handle things independently if anything were to happen. I wouldnt want to rely on my parents again ever, financially speaking. Workwise, I ve been working in companies in a certain domain and before that I'm a qualified ESL teacher. Though this is Germany we re talking about...people are basically born speaking english and for the office jobs it would require some good years for me to be able to learn german and be any good in it. I just feel overwhelmed. The only good case would be if it would be an international company but my chances of even getting there are low. Ffs, I feel trapped.