I'm in a bit of a mind fog, I have two options guys you can just pick Option A,B or C.

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A.Move in with him to Germany, accept his stance on my parents

B. Break up, change city, start taking life by myself and maybe do some business with a girl friend

C. Become a nun.

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Short Brief Summary: 5 yr old relationship, we need to relocate. Initial plans of moving to a country have been shunned by my parents that no longer want me there with them. My partner is pissed, never wants to see them again, hates them. I cannot live without my parents and my family in my life in some sort, I love them too much and I know my parents want the best for me. So its a dealbreaker.

Option A- Do I move with him to a new country I dont speak the language to, and I wont be probably able to work in for quite a while while he focuses on his career?

Option B- Break up with him, move to a different city of where I currently am and move in with a girlfriend and just try to work together on things.

Option C- Remove contact with everyone and everything, become a nun.

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Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F

It's really hard for anyone else to say but you what's best

He might get over those feelings with your parents eventually. And if you love him, five years is a lot to say good bye to with someone.

Ratatouillesque · 26-30, F

@Notsimilarreally Thank you! You get it! 5 years.... This is the guy I would see myself married to with kids! I feel really stuck. What if I never advance with my life? I slowly start resenting him? He gets a career? I end up trapped? Sure I love him now but could I trust him in 10 years? God.

Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F

@Ratatouillesque totally understandable thoughts. Is there something you can do in the country to advance yourself and remain independent and progressing? Online courses? Take a language class for that country's spoken language too. Like what options can you do for you, so you don't feel like you're just there for him. Do you have interest in going there other than to remain with him at all?

Ratatouillesque · 26-30, F

@Notsimilarreally Honestly I feel like if I would be going there the first thing I would need to do is to definitely take German classes, otherwise employers would not look twice at you. I've been working in firms for half of my adult life and the other half would be ESL english teacher for children. Honestly I appreciate that you saw the importance of being after all in a committed 5 year old relationship. In the end I do want to marry and have children with him and be happy, I'm just deeply worried over things not working out in the best case possible.