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shakemeup · 36-40
I had a friend like this once. He had all kinds of affectionate terms for me, including beautiful. But I quickly noticed he did this to all his lady friends. It was just how he interacts with ladies he feels close to. It definitely had some flirtatious vibes to it. But that was just how he rolled. He just had lots of rizz.
I had a crush on him, but the one time I took some of our back and forth flirting too far and actually expressed a desire for him... he made it clear that I was not hot enough...and not good enough. I was thoroughly friend zoned. His exes were all drop dead gorgeous ladies.
He made a good friend though. And I appreciated that alot. Even though it stung a bit for a few months. I had to ask him to stop calling me such things because it made it more difficult to squash that crush away. He did so, and after awhile I got over him and we were friends for many years.
I'd suggest doing what I did-ask him nicely to stop calling you things like beautiful if it bothers you.
I had a crush on him, but the one time I took some of our back and forth flirting too far and actually expressed a desire for him... he made it clear that I was not hot enough...and not good enough. I was thoroughly friend zoned. His exes were all drop dead gorgeous ladies.
He made a good friend though. And I appreciated that alot. Even though it stung a bit for a few months. I had to ask him to stop calling me such things because it made it more difficult to squash that crush away. He did so, and after awhile I got over him and we were friends for many years.
I'd suggest doing what I did-ask him nicely to stop calling you things like beautiful if it bothers you.
Why does there have to be a problem?
Laralemonsqueeze · 36-40, F
@OlderSometimesWiser don't it seem misleading?
@Laralemonsqueeze Not necessarily. You can find someone beautiful while still only wanting friendship.
NoGamesTolerated · F
@OlderSometimesWiser true
LilPrincess · 41-45, F
Did you ask him?🤔
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Jeephikelove · 46-50, F
Like so many, doesn’t know what he wants so won’t settle down and focus on one woman. 🫤
Pinkstarburst · 51-55, F
Um…why would this be a problem. He sounds like a great friend.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
That’s a pretty uncommon interaction for a man. Usually there’s a sexual motive with that type of activity.
@shakemeup seems to have had the same experience and dealt with it extremely well.
If you told that story at work to a group of your male friends, their first response would likely be, “Is he gay?”
@shakemeup seems to have had the same experience and dealt with it extremely well.
If you told that story at work to a group of your male friends, their first response would likely be, “Is he gay?”
Elisbch · M
Could he possibly be insecure from a response you could have inadvertently given him? If this were the case, he could be proceeding carefully? I don't know what kind of exchanges you could have had
Ontheroad · M
Playing the field and hoping for an easy mark, or it's just his usual line meaning no harm.
Samek · 36-40, M
He's afraid of loss and rejection. Someone hurt him deeply. Handle with love and empathy.
NoGamesTolerated · F
Maybe just how he talks and his culture.
DarkXtecy · 36-40, M
You could just directly ask him.
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OogieBoogie · F
Does he have a problem ?
Its only your perception that he has one, so maybe the problem is in the view point ?🤷♀️
Its only your perception that he has one, so maybe the problem is in the view point ?🤷♀️
bijouxbroussard · F
Who says he has a "problem" ?
caccoon · 36-40
Dismissive avoidant
DDonde · 31-35, M
I don't know.
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