A guy told my friend: "I'll decide if I want to date once I saw you in actual." Is that right? Cause I feel something off about that guy
Btw they are planning to swe each other on September!
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Nibblesnarf · 26-30, M
I can think of a couple possibilities. One is that he wants to verify that your friend's real life appearance matches up with whatever pictures he's seen. (Or he hasn't seen any pictures at all, and is withholding a decision depending on how your friend looks in real life.) It's apparently common for people to use glamorized or touched up photos of themselves when trying to entice potential dates. If this is what he's thinking, then I think it's a valid consideration, but probably a bit rude of him to actually say it to your friend.
Another possibility is that in-person communication can feel different than virtual communication, and he wants to make sure that that "spark" of interest is still there when communicating in person. I think that would be valid and also not rude.
Or, you know, he could be a serial killer who wants to meet up with a potential victim. Probably not that, of course. Can you pinpoint why he feels off to you?
Another possibility is that in-person communication can feel different than virtual communication, and he wants to make sure that that "spark" of interest is still there when communicating in person. I think that would be valid and also not rude.
Or, you know, he could be a serial killer who wants to meet up with a potential victim. Probably not that, of course. Can you pinpoint why he feels off to you?
sugarpie · 26-30, F
@Nibblesnarf omg that serial killer part 🤣 I was just concern about my friend. What if she liked him after the first date but the guy can't reciprocate? And it feels like her feelings would be invalid since the guy already told her what he expects on the date. I've seen her cry before, I don't want her to be hurt again :(
Nibblesnarf · 26-30, M
@sugarpie If the big meeting is a few months away and something your friend is eagerly anticipating, then I see why you'd be concerned about her.
Do you get the sense that there are uneven hopes/expectations going in, with your friend really wanting it to be something more, and him seeming unsure?
Do you get the sense that there are uneven hopes/expectations going in, with your friend really wanting it to be something more, and him seeming unsure?
twistedrope · 26-30, M