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Okay help a nilla out

When a guy:

- cooks for you
- mows and edges for you (for free ofc)
- spends time, money and effort to come see you 29 miles away
- makes you feel super special on your bday
- kisses you like he means it
- says he is dating only you and appreciates when you say the same

Yet he:

- says he doesn't want a relationship right now

Because he:

- is not where he wants to be in life yet
- thinks it's too soon

But you, the woman, feel:

- he could level up WITH you
- he isn't taking you off the market to prevent other guys from sweeping you off your feet
- any time you have to wonder, that is kiiinda your answer
- he isn't trying as hard as he used to...

...that is a fuck boy situationship right??
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Isn't dating being in a relationship anymore?
foldedunfolding · 41-45, F
@SooperSarah not at all. he can come back and say he isnt cheating bc i was never in a relationship with him, and gaslight tf out of me
@foldedunfolding I guess I just don't get dating anymore. I'm old school and nobody gets a thing from me unless we're in a relationship.
foldedunfolding · 41-45, F
@SooperSarah yeah..it is really, really rough out here..bc other girls will give up the whole kit and caboodle..so why date me if i want to take it more slowly?
@foldedunfolding I'm sorry he's such a douche canoe. There's something deeply flawed in that guy. While the attention and stuffs feels nice, it's not coming from a genuine place. He's simply doing what he must to get what he wants from you.
foldedunfolding · 41-45, F
@SooperSarah i was speaking in generalities when i spoke of other men in the dating world. he isnt pressuring me sexually at all..i just really struggle bc he seemed soo into me..then kinda lost interest. so i may have to walk away :(
@foldedunfolding it kind of feels like he's just keeping you around. It could be he wants to hold onto you as an option, or he's happy with just being friends. You seem to not be okay with either. You can't be emotionaly invested in someone that's not willing to return the effort. That ends in heartbreak 100% of the time.
foldedunfolding · 41-45, F
@SooperSarah yeah :( i know this..it just sucks really hard.
@foldedunfolding I know, and I'm sorry ):