Can a Friendship Turn Romantic?

I had a conversation with a friend over the weekend who said she hates using dating apps. She prefers to get to know someone as a friend first, and then see if it turns into something romantic.

I commented how that feels exactly opposite of my experience. For me, when someone is a friend, you don't want to muck it up by adding a romantic dimension to the relationship. It's why people have labeled it the "friend zone." My friend said she finds it much easier to ask out someone she already has built trust with. And I said that I would find it much more awkward to do so.

What do you think? Have you ever experienced a friendship turned romantic? If so, how did it happen? Because sorry, I just can't get my mind around it.

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OliRos · 18-21, F

I am the opposite of your friend, so with you on this question. But for different reasons, I think.

As a child, I failed to learn the trick of friendship and I haven't picked it up since. If I relied on friends as the first step to "romance", I might as well become a nun.

So, I "date" or "hook up" or whatever the word is and hope that some form of friendship may emerge from the "romance", on the basis that it's nicer to be with someone you actually like and get along with.

ShadowSister · 46-50, F

@OliRos Hey now, nothing wrong with nuns! As a bi woman who leans towards women, I think I would very much like to be a nun myself. 😇

Joking aside, if that works for you, great! I do hope you have some girl friends in your life as well though for support when you need it.

In the actual friend sense, I mean. Not in the naughty nun sense. Unless you're into that sort of thing, of course. 😂 I'd best stop now.

OliRos · 18-21, F

@ShadowSister 😂😂😂 Yes, quit while you are ahead.

You got me at "bi... leaning towards women."

As for support, I don't even wear a bra.

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