Can a Friendship Turn Romantic?

I had a conversation with a friend over the weekend who said she hates using dating apps. She prefers to get to know someone as a friend first, and then see if it turns into something romantic.

I commented how that feels exactly opposite of my experience. For me, when someone is a friend, you don't want to muck it up by adding a romantic dimension to the relationship. It's why people have labeled it the "friend zone." My friend said she finds it much easier to ask out someone she already has built trust with. And I said that I would find it much more awkward to do so.

What do you think? Have you ever experienced a friendship turned romantic? If so, how did it happen? Because sorry, I just can't get my mind around it.

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SW-User

Im the same way as your friend. I refuse to consider anyone as a sexual partner that isn't a friend first.

I never really understood the friendzone concept. Never been a victim of it either.

ShadowSister · 46-50, F

@SW-User I mean the term "frendzone" can be problematic. I think the energy is when one of the people says, "Hey wait, I thought we were just friends. But actually you've wanted to sleep with me this whole time?" To me, that feels like a betrayal of trust.

So how would it happen without that feeling of betrayal?

SW-User

@ShadowSister interesting perspective. If it's not recipricoated than there was never a chance and that's all you were meant to be.. friends.

ShadowSister · 46-50, F

@SW-User How did you bring it up to your partners to see if it was reciprocated?

SW-User

@ShadowSister unfortunately, this was a lesson learned. i've taken this perspective after being with my current partner.

Wish I knew then what I know now.

ShadowSister · 46-50, F

@SW-User I'm sorry that happened to you. Sounds like a good life lesson though.