I would like to find a partner to share life with.. to support each other. To fall deeply into listening each other..

But I quit looking at guys, I seriously did. I am decided that I'm not going to go into anything that doesn't feel like 100% yes never again.
You know this feeling of incompatibility, that there's something off. The following thought that "none's perfect and I won't find a perfect match". Lies! If I've felt that before it's completely possible that I can meet with it again.
No more semi-half-stuff.
Ah I'll find him. For reasons it took me sometime to admit to myself that I do want a partner. I couldn't accept that I don't want to just be by myself forever ♾️ ha!

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ninalanyon · 61-69, T

I hope you find the right one before it's too late to enjoy.

elafina · 36-40, F

@ninalanyon hahaha okay you just sounded like my mom now 🤣

ninalanyon · 61-69, T

@elafina Probably. But probably not with quite the same motives. She is probably pining for grandchildren as well as thinking of your happiness. I just want to suggest that you don't search endlessly for the perfect man when you could have a good life with one who is merely very good. And of course your mother has a point if you want to have children, you can't put it off for ever.

Of course you [i]probably[/i] shouldn't let your mother pressure you, and you [i]absolutely[/i] must not let random people on the internet do it!

elafina · 36-40, F

@ninalanyon I don't want kids in this lifetime...
And when I say that I will wait until I find the one that my heart will say Yes, I mean it. One who "is merely very good" means instantly that my thinking got into the equation. I want to pick with my heart again, after years and years.. anyways I am definitely in no rush.
Wanting someone for me doesn't mean that if I don't find him, I'll spend a life in misery. I've lots to occupy me. If someone comes along, it'll definitely be a great thing, but it's not a prerequisite. So there is no hurry really for me here..