Okay so I was sleeping with my friend last night

This is about to be TMI so pre-warning. Possibly a little triggering to some.

Anyway, earlier this week she said she wanted me to put my thumb in her ass while we had sex. I was like "okay, no problem" 😌👌

So last night while I was hitting it from the back, I spit on my thumb then slowly pushed it up her ass. After about a minute I heard her whine so I asked if she was okay & she said "yeah I'm fine" but she sounded like she was crying 🥺

So I stopped & laid down next to her & told her "you know you can tell me to stop if you want right?" & She said, "yeah but, I was always taught growing up not to tell a man no. Especially when it comes to sexual stuff"

That was honestly sad to me. Because what kind of households are people raised in where they're forced to believe that? That's f*cked up. Anyway, she told me that she normally likes the finger thing but this time was just different because she had a really bad week & she was sensitive. So I just held her & we laid there until she felt better. I told her from now on, I won't do it unless she tells me in the moment that she wants it.
She said she's afraid to say what she wants sexually & I was like, "I know. But honestly I don't get any enjoyment out of it if you don't. I get off on your reactions". She said she's just used to men only worrying about themselves. Which sadly, is waaay too common still.

I just think it's f*cked up how so many women get accustomed to believing that they don't have control or that they can't tell a man no. I totally get why so many women hate on men 😒 too many selfish assholes