Love with a Narcissist

Have you ever gotten involved with a sneaky bastard? Someone who played you and then acted like it never happened?

It happened to me a few years ago. This guy was a pro. He would make plans and never follow through. This guy played me big time. He was stringing me along for business contacts. He thought I didn't know he had other women on the line but when i got the evidence, I blocked his ass on everything. He tried to rub my nose in it which was the final straw.
2 months later,he reached out like we were buddies. I was shocked. He acted like nothing had happened & like we were best friends. Delusional. I answered really short and sweet so he would get the message.

He reached out to me today wanting to know if I was going to a conference that we had met at. He wants to tell me how wonderful his life is now I am sure. I am not interested. He never apologized, never admitted anything and certainly didn't acknowledge what he did.

I had written a letter to him but never mailed it. However, it was time to put this to rest. I emailed it to him as response to his email. It went like this:

I want to thank you for reaching out. I am going to take this opportunity to clear the air and get closure.

In light of what happened between us and the fact there was no acknowledgement or apology, I think it is in my best interest to not connect in any way. This is not about you choosing someone else. It is about how you treated me.

When I met you, I thought you were the greatest guy, but I have to be honest, I noticed red flags immediately. I just didn’t know how to interpret them.

You were sloppy and left lots of clues as to what was going on which put me on alert. I wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt, but I saw your true character in how you handled the whole situation.

You would make plans and never follow through. I caught you in lies. The real eye opener happened the last time we saw each other. I wanted to share how I had lost my daughter. You were completely not interested. Zero empathy. That was the turning point for me. I knew something was seriously wrong and started to put the pieces together. It confirmed what I thought and I decided to start backing away.

I stopped visiting your facebook page. I didn’t accept your request on IG at first. I stopped initiating all calls and messages, only responding when you reached out or if it was business related.

I guess I wasn’t so taken with you after all.

Choosing someone else is your prerogative. I understand and respect that, but intentionally hurting someone who was only good to you, is unconscionable. You knew what you were doing and I suspect you have been playing women for a long time. Once I found out the truth, you tried to rub my nose in it. That is cruel. You took the coward’s way out, hoping time would heal what happened and you would not have to be accountable.
Had you been honest, we could have been great friends. For more my sake than yours, I forgive you and I wish you well.

I feel tremendous relief but I am shaking nonetheless because I finally feel I got the final say.