If you sat by someone's hospice bedside....

Did you talk about an afterlife, Heaven or where they're going?

I have not brought it up even though my dad is religious. Anytime we have brought up the cancer that's afflicting him he's gotten irritated. But, I want to say somehow to him while he's alive that he'll always be here . That he's not truly leaving. But I don't want to cause anxiety either.

I've talked memories, his positive times, and that we love him, so he's had calming moments . But I'm not sure if it's ok to bring up how he'll not be fully going , to us. I did say we will always be with each other, the other day. Perhaps I can say that again..?

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emiliya · 26-30, F

My mother died at home and I said it's not the end and I love you as she died in my arms. I lay with her for some hours after. I didn't close her eyes.
We didn't talk about Heaven because she did not want to die. Neither she nor I could talk about it. Who could? That means you are ok with their death. That you can deal with it.

I remember her saying she may be dying and I left her crying, to walk...to get away. I was calling doctors every day, trying to find cure. Pandemic was happening and the hysteria spread to the private hospitals also. It was hopeless.

I have a relationship with my father beyond death. He is coming into my dreams often and I feel his presence every day. Mom is with us also. I love them so much. I don't fear death because I lost them and when I die will be with them in the afterlife. That is what I want. I don't care whether God exists or not. I want only for there to be afterlife with my parents.