If you sat by someone's hospice bedside....

Did you talk about an afterlife, Heaven or where they're going?

I have not brought it up even though my dad is religious. Anytime we have brought up the cancer that's afflicting him he's gotten irritated. But, I want to say somehow to him while he's alive that he'll always be here . That he's not truly leaving. But I don't want to cause anxiety either.

I've talked memories, his positive times, and that we love him, so he's had calming moments . But I'm not sure if it's ok to bring up how he'll not be fully going , to us. I did say we will always be with each other, the other day. Perhaps I can say that again..?

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MellyMel22 · F

I was with my Gram and she was in so much pain I only told her who was there and that we loved her and to rest b/c she was trying to pay attention to everyone to show she was thankful. Each time I let my uncle or my mom sit closest to her to have time w/her, she called out for me to make sure I was still there 🥺 We were extremely close.

You do what feels right for you and him. Everyone is different.