Do you believe people choose to go to hell by not listening to God?

I've heard people say that. To me that'd be like saying that if a husband tells his wife if she cheats he'll kill her, and she doesn't listen and cheats anyway. He finds out and kills her like he said he would, and it was her choice to die cause she knew that would happen if she did cheat.
Take that situation but instead of husband it'd be God, instead of cheating it'd be sinning, and instead of dying it'd be going to hell forever.
Only difference is God is perfect so with him in place of the husband it'd be holy and just.