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Ontheroad I get that. I’m the same way.
But a month ago I made a post specifically asking women to talk to me about my recent breakup. I had a dozen women respond in one form or another.
Every single one of them seemed to change the conversation to them and their life and almost a dozen times my need for understanding went unmet.
To be perfectly honest, it didn’t bother me all that much and I kind of expected it in some way. Being as it is that I’ve romantically interacted with 6 females in the last 3 and half decades and every single one said they loved me for who I was but then tried to change me. Some even had the audacity to call it a growth thing as I grew and learned and made more money each year.
Strange how it never seems to come down to what needs of mine went untended and always came down to what needs of whoever’s that I never got right.
Women want strength without aggression. They want emotional availability without any want to tend to a man’s emotional needs.
They want vulnerability and then lose respect, or worse, use those things against you.
They want marriage and all the things your work provides, but are mad when your working to provide keeps you too busy.
A man’s make up is money enough to be all those things without working and it helps if you’re 6’ 1” and wearing the clothes she dreams about.
But it isn’t even about all that in this post.
It’s about the return towards investment and my investment has long outweighed my return.
I have over 16 conversations where I was the last person to type something. A dozen f this conversations I already described.
But yeah…, I ain’t nothing much ch according to the SW scale of relevance.
The support I offer is a blip and the kindness I show means little.
It’s all good.
This place can fall to the hounds who post bullshit and sex shit and I’ll just fade.
With all the ways it’s gone here…, I’ll assume it’s just me and not some over generalized thought that women want what they can have because t choose other things that they can’t.
And before anyone gets this reply twisted, I only ever tried to entice 3 women over the last 10 years .
I’m just replying off the recent base of conversations where the people who said they wanted to help me work through the breakup turned it into me supporting them before they all ghosted.
I guess that’s what I get for thinking that people mean what they say the way I do.
It’s all whatever the fuck if t is and I don’t really give a fuck as much as this reply might make it seem.
These are just things I noticed put into words.
