should i be worried

this woman who i've been messaging for years on facebook, which i hoped will lead to a relationship.....i logged into facebook the other day on my iphone and i saw she posted something on her timeline from another man? and i felt hurt and disappointed....as i thought she was divorced, it says on her profile she's divorced...so i thought i had my 'foot in the door'.

this woman is in her 50s and i am in my mid 40s now...what should i do next? ask her who this man is? or ask her if she is in a relationship?

i think i'm a little scared to ask her if she's in a relationship because i would be hugely disappointed....as i thought our affectionate messages to each other over the years would of lead to something..

i live alone in a flat and are introverted and don't have much interaction with people now...so i was banking a lot on this online interaction.

any advice?

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twiigss · M

It sounds like the ball is in your court on a potential relationship. If you and her have been sending affectionate messages to each other, take it to the next level. Ask if she is single, and if she is, would she like to meet up for coffee or lunch? And if she says yes, that's great. Set up a time and place for that.

If she says no she's not single that she wants time to herself, then respect her decision and say, okay, but keep the lines of communication open. If she is single but doesn't want to do coffee or lunch, ask her if there's a good time for that for her and take it from there.

Take things slow and just remember, a no doesn't mean the end of the world. No is just a plain and simple no. Good luck to you sir :)

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