Worried about my wife

Not sure where to start. But I am married 2 years to a beautiful girl we get on well and have a pretty good sex life not as intense as in the begining but satisfied.
My present worry stress is I have noticed my wife is extremely friendly with her co-workers and has the occasional drink after work with them usually about 6 of them.
So she never stays out long and only has 2 drinks as she is driving home, now it is twice a week, but lately she talks little things about one co-worker in particular, I have started to get worried as the after works drinks now involve her taking some different outer clothes to work to change before leaving the office.
She can come home wearing mini skirts and look beautiful with her long legs. Hair and make up perfect.
I am stressed that she might fancy this co-worker as some nights there are different workers but he never misses a night, I suggested going to meet her at the bar but she says no what would the others think
So should I worry, should I tell her not to go to be with them, but the frightening thing about all this is as soon as she mentioned this boys name and how he is there every week. I started getting excited and actually hard, it turned me on, as I thought of them chatting and laughing and for all I know they would be sitting together, the fact that she started improvement of her dress appearance, she always wears sexy lingerie that has not changed.

Since then I have started to worry and I am now looking online for advice or people with similar to experience I have not come across my problem but some words have made me read more on Bethe the subject such as cuckolding stories affairs stories just whatever I could see that's why I am here I picked this site as it may answer my questions and advise me
Thank you
Nial

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davidstorm · C

======this is for anyone in this dilemma=======
if you say and do nothing you will in the end lose her that [inevitable]
you need to start the talk process with open dialogue between you and her
it is obvious she has the hots for the guy and maybe sexual interactions may be already taking place with these changes in outfits, question! is she taking a change of panties? as well if so you need to check the gusset of them the next day when she has gone to work if they have crispy crotchy mean's she is doing it already with him.
now you can either spy on her at the bar stay in the background out of the way, or park up in a dark place in the car park and sit and watch, you will soon find the answers you are looking for.
if she is you have two directions to go 1/=If it pisses you off confront her first then confront him second she will either be all apologetic, I won't do it again I promise it was just a one-off etc or there will be a full-blown row, which she either storms off and returns with her tail between her legs and you start all over a new, or the row between you goes on for months before you sort it out.
or 2/= if it turns you on, you confront her calmly telling her you know and have seen what she is up to BUT it turns you on and you want to see more BUT under your conditions, you want and need to watch as it goes down and also a full verbal account afterwards while you are fucking her re-taking possession of her afterwards and you both have a very enjoyable life afterwards.
or as in situation 1/= above you will never trust her again